Looking back at my career, there are a few things I wish I knew before I figured them out the hard way. I’m talking about the kind of insights that could have saved me time and frustration, earnt me more money, and saved me the occasional face-palm moment.

Whether you’re just starting out, or you’re a few years in, these five lessons can help you avoid the same traps I fell into and set you up for long-term career and leadership success:

1. Hard Work Alone Won’t Speak for Itself

For years, I thought that if I just worked hard enough, someone would notice. But here’s the thing: people are busy with their own work, and their own issues. If you don’t take the time to highlight your contributions, chances are no one will know about them. Strategically self promoting doesn’t make you ‘braggy’, it makes you smart. You are your best advocate. Build relationships, share your wins, and make sure people know the value you bring.

2. Your Manager Is Not a Mind Reader (I know, shocking right!?)

This one took me far too long to figure out. I used to assume my manager would just know what I wanted in terms of growth and development opportunities. Turns out, they’re not psychic! You have to own your own career and articulate your goals. Don’t sit back, wait and hope that someone else will come up with your professional development plan for you, or gift you an opportunity.  Take charge for yourself, be curious, upskill, and drive your own career progression.

3. How You Communicate Matters

It’s not just about what you say—it’s how you say it that counts. I’ve learned that good communication isn’t just about getting your point across; it’s about making sure your message lands, and is truly understood. Whether you’re talking to a colleague, your manager, or a client, always think about how to frame your message in a way that resonates. It makes all the difference when you want to build trust, influence, and leadership.

4. Network Consistently and Before You Need Something

I spoke with a friend the other day, who was sharing a story about an ex-colleague they worked with 15 years ago, who they hadn’t spoken to since, but who reached out to them on Linkedin to ask them “can you get me a job at XXX?”. My friend was like “ahhh, you didn’t want to even ask me how I am first?” Relationships matter. Strong networks matter. Building authentic relationships should be something you do throughout your career—not just when you need help, or want a favour from someone. People who nurture their networks consistently will find more doors opening when they need support or advice.

5. Not All Advice Is Created Equal

Here’s the thing: everyone will have an opinion about your career. While it’s great to get guidance, not all advice is created equally, nor will it  apply to you. The key is to know yourself well enough to filter through what resonates and what doesn’t. At the end of the day, only you can decide what success looks like for your life and career.

If you take anything away from these lessons, let it be this: your career is yours to shape, just as your life is too. Trust yourself, communicate clearly, build and nurture your relationships, and never stop learning. You’ve got this! 💪

Pssstttt, I’ve set a BHAG (big, hairy, audacious goal) for 2025 to deliver 25 keynote speeches to organisations globally on how employees, teams and organisations can still drive outcomes and be successful, but WITHOUT selling our souls in the process.Want to be one of those 25? Reach out and let’s connect.